I wore a red dress to work today. It has a zipper at either side of my chest that can unzip and reveal a thin strip of skin. A coworker, without warning, tried pulling at the zipper and when it wouldn’t zip, instead revealed a good portion of my collarbone and shoulder as well as my bra strap. An hour later, the same coworker came up and told me to not wear clothes with zippers because he’ll go right ahead and unzip them. I shot back that unzipping me without my permission is sexual harassment. Apparently a manager heard and berated my coworker. At the end of my shift, my coworker told me that my little comment got him in trouble and that he no longer feels comfortable saying anything to me other than “hello” and “goodbye.”
I am supposed to feel guilty for pointing out that he can’t lay his fucking hands on me.
Don’t feel guilty, he can fuck off. You have every right to protect your personal space. You didn’t do anything wrong and there was nothing wrong with what you were wearing. Who walks up to someone and just unzips their clothes anyway? He is dead wrong for that.
inside jokes are so amazing and powerful like you can say one word one fucking word and have a person on the floor laughing or glaring at you while saying your name in complete exasperation while everyone else is just utterly confused